Posted By: Lacey
Any rough starts with feel good endings? - 11/19/15 06:33 PM
I know that patience is the key to any & every relationship with a glider & that is the route I am going to stick to.
But I would really appreciate some comfort to get through the roughness of a new scared baby. Left alone to my thoughts & I start to feel that this little one just plain hates me--it also doesn't help that the woman that I bought her from just kept telling me when I picked her up, "she's going to hate, hate, HATE you for a long while, so expect that". (I know animals in general, are incapable of hate--despite that, it's simply not conducive to a new owner's relationship with their pet).
Let me start off with a little background. I am new to being a Sugar Mama. I began thinking about getting one in the beginning of this year, but I've had enough pets throughout my life & a little girl of my own, to know that there is more to it than how cute they are.
I spent the spring/summer reading every thing I could on their species, natural habitat, diet, anatomy, behavior, history in the exotic trade--everything. I decided that I was going to start my search for the new addition to our family. I was fortunate & didn't have to wait long. I knew a woman who owned a little pet shop an hour away (she breeds & sells birds & exotics). A glider pair of hers had just had two little ones, one boy one girl. They were about 2 weeks OOP. I decided on the little boy. for the next 6-7 weeks, I drove out there 3 times a week to spend 2-3 hours a day with my little boy. I got to bring him home October 28th & bonding has been on the easy side. I am currently a stay-at-home mom & student. He spends the days in his bonding pouch with an apple & treats throughout the day. He rarely crabs anymore, & it's only sometimes when I first wake him up. We have tent time & I'm always talking to him. He has even began bonding with my husband & our 4 year old. He never bites aside from sometimes "taste-testing" my fingers.
I had always planned on getting another one so he would have a buddy. So I kept my feelers out for available babies. I came upon a woman a couple hours away who had many for sale. I checked out her page & we talked on the phone. I was interested in a little girl she had that she said had an unusually calm & sweet demeanor. About a week and half later, I drove out to pick her up. I would have preferred to see the type of place the little one was coming from, what her set-up was & all, but the woman didn't want me to see her place so we agreed to meet next to a highway. She was with her older son & as they were attempting to move the baby into the pouch I brought, I saw the hesitation. The son saw his mom's face & reminded her to be careful because the baby had a nasty bite. There was something not right about the whole situation. This was different than what I was told on the phone about this little one, & they claimed to hold all the babies daily. Myself I would expect a bite from a scared baby, but I didn't expect THEM to be afraid of her.
As I drove home, I felt so much concern. I didn't know what to believe or what kind of place she really came from. I thought about the horror stories I read about people being scammed & ending up not with a just-weaned baby, but a much older glider, some even a couple years old! Now, none of that would make me change my mind on this little one, & I definitely wouldn't take her back, no matter how much she cost me. But it still isn't nice to be lied to. And either way, I just don't know anything about this situation really. That's what really bothers me.
I got her her own cage & setup. My boy is fixed but I want to have her start to bond first before attempting to introduce them. After getting her home, I tried to put her in her new cage from the bonding pouch, she high pitch crabbed at me, bit me and then jumped & ran. She was so quick! I didn't even know they could move that fast! She got into another room that was not glider proof & I was panicking trying to catch her before she got into something or got hurt. I tried to throw a towel over her so I could catch her, because I read that that would get her to stop. But she still bolted from under it, crabbing & trying to bite all the way. Eventually I caught her & safely got her into her cage. But I felt terrible all night for having had to put her through that. I gave her a day or so to calm down in her cage & get used to the smells and sounds. I made her yummy dinners & put treats in her cage. She jumped at me every time attempting to bite. After two days, I took her out using a pouch to gently grasp her, & she was biting the cloth really hard. I talked to her softly & got her into her bonding pouch & gave her an apple piece before zipping it closed and placing her under my shirt. She quiet down and we went through the day more or less okay. Until I went to remove her & place her back in the cage--we went through that biting, jumping, running, catching scenario again. Again I felt awful for putting her through such stress. I'm starting to wonder if she can even forgive me for this now. Last night she bit me badly, tore into the tip of my finger pretty deep & it bled for an hour.
Like I said, I know it takes time, smell, & a comforting safe routine. Before she came home I spent a couple nights sleeping with a fleece blanket that I have draped over her cage, I've slept with fleece strips & placed them in all her nest pouches, & I have even invested in the original sugar glider bonding potion, if for the slightest chance it might help.
In reaching out, I'm hoping to hear from you guys about your experiences. Can such a rocky start still have a happy ending?
But I would really appreciate some comfort to get through the roughness of a new scared baby. Left alone to my thoughts & I start to feel that this little one just plain hates me--it also doesn't help that the woman that I bought her from just kept telling me when I picked her up, "she's going to hate, hate, HATE you for a long while, so expect that". (I know animals in general, are incapable of hate--despite that, it's simply not conducive to a new owner's relationship with their pet).
Let me start off with a little background. I am new to being a Sugar Mama. I began thinking about getting one in the beginning of this year, but I've had enough pets throughout my life & a little girl of my own, to know that there is more to it than how cute they are.
I spent the spring/summer reading every thing I could on their species, natural habitat, diet, anatomy, behavior, history in the exotic trade--everything. I decided that I was going to start my search for the new addition to our family. I was fortunate & didn't have to wait long. I knew a woman who owned a little pet shop an hour away (she breeds & sells birds & exotics). A glider pair of hers had just had two little ones, one boy one girl. They were about 2 weeks OOP. I decided on the little boy. for the next 6-7 weeks, I drove out there 3 times a week to spend 2-3 hours a day with my little boy. I got to bring him home October 28th & bonding has been on the easy side. I am currently a stay-at-home mom & student. He spends the days in his bonding pouch with an apple & treats throughout the day. He rarely crabs anymore, & it's only sometimes when I first wake him up. We have tent time & I'm always talking to him. He has even began bonding with my husband & our 4 year old. He never bites aside from sometimes "taste-testing" my fingers.
I had always planned on getting another one so he would have a buddy. So I kept my feelers out for available babies. I came upon a woman a couple hours away who had many for sale. I checked out her page & we talked on the phone. I was interested in a little girl she had that she said had an unusually calm & sweet demeanor. About a week and half later, I drove out to pick her up. I would have preferred to see the type of place the little one was coming from, what her set-up was & all, but the woman didn't want me to see her place so we agreed to meet next to a highway. She was with her older son & as they were attempting to move the baby into the pouch I brought, I saw the hesitation. The son saw his mom's face & reminded her to be careful because the baby had a nasty bite. There was something not right about the whole situation. This was different than what I was told on the phone about this little one, & they claimed to hold all the babies daily. Myself I would expect a bite from a scared baby, but I didn't expect THEM to be afraid of her.
As I drove home, I felt so much concern. I didn't know what to believe or what kind of place she really came from. I thought about the horror stories I read about people being scammed & ending up not with a just-weaned baby, but a much older glider, some even a couple years old! Now, none of that would make me change my mind on this little one, & I definitely wouldn't take her back, no matter how much she cost me. But it still isn't nice to be lied to. And either way, I just don't know anything about this situation really. That's what really bothers me.
I got her her own cage & setup. My boy is fixed but I want to have her start to bond first before attempting to introduce them. After getting her home, I tried to put her in her new cage from the bonding pouch, she high pitch crabbed at me, bit me and then jumped & ran. She was so quick! I didn't even know they could move that fast! She got into another room that was not glider proof & I was panicking trying to catch her before she got into something or got hurt. I tried to throw a towel over her so I could catch her, because I read that that would get her to stop. But she still bolted from under it, crabbing & trying to bite all the way. Eventually I caught her & safely got her into her cage. But I felt terrible all night for having had to put her through that. I gave her a day or so to calm down in her cage & get used to the smells and sounds. I made her yummy dinners & put treats in her cage. She jumped at me every time attempting to bite. After two days, I took her out using a pouch to gently grasp her, & she was biting the cloth really hard. I talked to her softly & got her into her bonding pouch & gave her an apple piece before zipping it closed and placing her under my shirt. She quiet down and we went through the day more or less okay. Until I went to remove her & place her back in the cage--we went through that biting, jumping, running, catching scenario again. Again I felt awful for putting her through such stress. I'm starting to wonder if she can even forgive me for this now. Last night she bit me badly, tore into the tip of my finger pretty deep & it bled for an hour.
Like I said, I know it takes time, smell, & a comforting safe routine. Before she came home I spent a couple nights sleeping with a fleece blanket that I have draped over her cage, I've slept with fleece strips & placed them in all her nest pouches, & I have even invested in the original sugar glider bonding potion, if for the slightest chance it might help.
In reaching out, I'm hoping to hear from you guys about your experiences. Can such a rocky start still have a happy ending?