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#4433 - 12/16/02 05:41 AM My Joey passed away
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I'm sorry, I haven't been here in a while. My hubby and I have been haveing some money problems, so the phone was the first to go.
But, I have some very sad, sad news. This is something that I wrote the night that my Joey was killed.
On November 6, 2002, at around 10:30pm I heard my sugar glider, Joey crabbing from the other room where his cage was not. I jumped up off of the couch and ran around to where I heard him crabbing from. I quickly ran into my daughters room thinking it was her sugar glider, but to my suprise, there was the cat that I found at Kash -N- Karry with Joey hanging out of his mouth. I quickly grabbed up Joey and held him close telling him that it was going to be alright.
A few minutes later, I noticed that Joey was bleeding from his face. I started to cry but tried to stay strong for him. I could tell that he was going to die. The little baby sugar glider that I raised was being ripped from my hands. All that I could tell him was that I loved him dearly and I promised to take care of Ohana (his son) and Chloe his wife. I told him to go ahead and go towards the light that I would take care of everything. I held him for hours and pet his little back. I could tell that his back was broken. Right before the color went away from his hands and feet he was holding my finger. All that I wanted to do was kill that cat that I tried to give a home to.
Joey died in my hand about 5minutes later. He was a late Christmas present from my husband and the best one that I have ever gotten in my life. I woke my husband up with tears running down my face and dried blood all over my hand and shirt. I told him," Josh, Joey was just killed." He jumped up out of bed and asked me what had happened, I told him and he said that he is going to get rid of the cat tomorrow. He is as upset as I am, cause he knew how much I loved little Joey.
As, I was sitting in the computer room still holding Joey with tears running down my face, I was tring to think of what to bury him in. I was going to bury him in one of the pouchs that Karin made for me that I won down at the first Florida Get Togeter, but my husband found a bird house that I had never used up in the closet. I was really pretty too. It was painted just like a house and had little flowers painted on it as well. He took off the roof of it and I rapped up Joey in one of his old baby blankets and placed him inside of it.
I cut off a peice of the blanket and wet my hand and wipped off all the blood from him and me. And I know that this might sound starnge, but with that peice of the old baby blanket that I kept, I wipped his blood off with it and now it sitting in my bra where he loved to sleep.
Josh and I took Joey out to the front yard and dug a deep hole and I placed Joey in it. I stood there crying as Josh covered him up with the dirt. I feel like I did when my grandpa died. He was taken from me, from what I feel way to early. I had only had him for 10months and now he is gone. I know that I have his son and wife still here, but they aren't the same. His son has his color and his moms attitude. Joey loved everyone and would go to anyone. He even got my vet to actual see gliders again cause he was so nice.
It hurts me so bad, cause everytime I go into the dinning room where his cage and family is, he isn't on the side of the cage hissing at me wanting me to come to the cage and give him a kiss. I wont hear that anymore and it hurts me so bad.
I thought that I was doing somehting right bringing that cat home from the store parking lot and I guess that I didn't cause he killed Joey. I blame myself for it cause for one, Joey got out of cage cause my little boy opened the door and I never thought about putting locks on the doors so that my son wouldn't open the doors. Also, if I never brought that stupid cat home Joey would still be alive. Cause the one cat that I do have in the house never messed with Joey. They would play together though and I could trust the one cat with him. But, it's really my fault. I should have never brought that [censored] cat home and I should have placed locks on the cage doors. But I never thought that this would happen or I would have.
I just want to know why it hurts me so bad! I sware I feel the same way I did when my grandpa died. I didn't think that I would be able to carry on with my life, but I have and I know that I'll be able to carry on with my life now.
"I LOVE YOU JOEY AND I ALWAYS WILL!! I'LL DO WHAT I PROMISED, I'LL TAKE CARE OF YOUR FAMILY THE BEST THAT I CAN."
Sorry, that this is so long. <img border="0" alt="cry" title="" src="graemlins/crying.gif" /> <img border="0" alt="cry" title="" src="graemlins/crying.gif" />
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#4434 - 12/16/02 06:22 AM Re: My Joey passed away [Re: ]
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Oh wow, <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

I felt your pain as I read your words. sounds like Joey was loved very much. Please do not blame yourself, sounds like you have a huge heart bringing that cat home. Remember that it is the cats instinct, it did not do it on purpose to make you sad or break your heart. I do understand you wanting to find another home for the cat. I don't think you should have that cat around the other gliders. I am sure that others might disagree. I am just putting myself in your shoes. May your heart heal quickly. <img border="0" alt="heart" title="" src="graemlins/heartpump.gif" />

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#4435 - 12/16/02 06:53 AM Re: My Joey passed away [Re: ]
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Yes, Jessica, Joey was very much loved. I know now that it wasn't my fault what had happened to Joey. My husband explained that to me. But, when I did write that it was the night that Joey was killed. I still cry everytime I think about him. Yes, we found another home for that cat. I so wanted to really kill him, but I knew that wouldn't be right. So, I gave him to an elderly lady that lives down the road. Now, the cat has a very good home and the lady loves him very much <img border="0" alt="heart" title="" src="graemlins/heartpump.gif" /> .

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#4436 - 12/16/02 07:22 AM Re: My Joey passed away [Re: ]
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I just read your story and it brought me to tears.
I cannot begin to imagian how it must have felt to hold him and not be able to help him. Im glad you foud the cat a home, he was only following his instincts but I bet everytime you saw the cat you remember what he did. If it helps, after I read your story I decided to get locks on my cages and be more protective when my two cats are near. I strongly feel that a mistake is only a mistake if no one learns from it. Im so sorry for you. If you ever need to venplease don't hesitate to write

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#4437 - 12/16/02 08:48 AM Re: My Joey passed away [Re: ]
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Leah: I am so sorry for your loss. I know how it feels to have that one special glider who gives kisses, barks for you to play with him, grooms you and loves being held in your arms. I still miss my little BooBear and always will just as you will always love and miss your Joey. Joey also knew how much you loved him just by the mere fact that you held him for hours trying to comfort him & he held your finger to let you know how much he loved you right to the end. While he may not physically be present, he will always be there in your heart. Take some of the love you had for Joey and share it with Chloe and his son, Ohana. They will need extra love now and Joey would want it that way.

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#4438 - 12/16/02 09:18 AM Re: My Joey passed away [Re: ]
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O Leah, I am so sorry. Praying your broken heart heals with time. Joey knew it wasn't your fault. He held your hand to tell you so.

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#4439 - 12/16/02 09:24 AM Re: My Joey passed away [Re: ]
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I am so sorry for your loss, I really do understand.

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#4440 - 12/16/02 09:24 AM Re: My Joey passed away [Re: ]
Anonymous
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This is so terribly sad. My heart goes out to you.

I'm going to move this to Real stories so other people can be warned about the dangers of other pets.

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#4441 - 12/16/02 09:44 AM Re: My Joey passed away [Re: ]
Anonymous
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I am so sorry for your Loss, I lost Rose my first bonded glider last year to something I never thought I would which is a vet , the one person you are suppost to be able to trust with your gliders. I know exactly how you feel , I only had her for 5 months she was 8 months OOP when she was killed., He knows how much you loved him . You will be in my thoughts and prayers.
May the lord , bless you and all those around you and keep you and yours in this time of grief.

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#4442 - 12/16/02 10:35 AM Re: My Joey passed away [Re: ]
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I feel your pain and know what you are going through. Many of us here have experienced the pain of losing a dear one. I am so sorry for your loss. It's just so hard when we blame ourselves but please don't. Joey knows that you loved him dearly.

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#4443 - 12/16/02 12:38 PM Re: My Joey passed away [Re: ]
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Leah,
<img border="0" alt="cry" title="" src="graemlins/crying.gif" /> I know exactly how you feel as i have lost my Twinkles the same way.
A cat got a hold of him, and i felt so rotten.
<img border="0" alt="cry" title="" src="graemlins/crying.gif" />
Your experience makes me cry all over again, since it is almost the exact same thing that happened to my Twinkles, and me.

Just try to remeber the good times you've had with him, and take care of Chloe, and Ohana.
<img border="0" alt="cry" title="" src="graemlins/crying.gif" />

Tanja

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#4444 - 12/16/02 04:09 PM Re: My Joey passed away [Re: ]
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Leah - you and Joey are in my thoughts - I'm so sorry. <img border="0" alt="heart" title="" src="graemlins/heartpump.gif" />

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#4445 - 12/16/02 04:55 PM Re: My Joey passed away [Re: ]
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Leah,

I just read the story and my heart is breaking for you. i personally know and saw the bond between you and Joey. I know that it wasnt your fault...It was an accident and accidents are just that...unpredictable. you did what was right, you are taking care of his family and Im sure he would want that more than anything now. Im truly sorry of the GREAT loss of Joey. I Loved him as well. May your heart heal with some time, but memories will live on! <img border="0" alt="heart" title="" src="graemlins/heartpump.gif" />

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#4446 - 12/16/02 10:59 PM Re: My Joey passed away [Re: ]
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I am so sorry for your loss. I can't even think about what you have gone through & are still going through. You & your family are in my thoughts & prayers.
Love that little baby with all your heart <img border="0" alt="heart" title="" src="graemlins/heartpump.gif" /> & remember, every time you hold little Ohana, you're holding & loving a part of little Joey.
Take care

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#4447 - 12/16/02 11:19 PM Re: My Joey passed away [Re: ]
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Leah...I feel so very, very sad for your loss <img border="0" alt="cry" title="" src="graemlins/crying.gif" /> ...Just know that we ALL have had "near misses" and/or times we have been careless, which could have resulted in a tragic ending such as yours...I agree with Taz, and know how you felt about your babies...Our hearts go out to you...Take care...

<img border="0" alt="heart" title="" src="graemlins/heartpump.gif" /> Sassie, Cassie, "JJ", Sammie, Chippie, & Opie <img border="0" alt="heart" title="" src="graemlins/heartpump.gif" />

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#4448 - 12/16/02 11:20 PM Re: My Joey passed away [Re: ]
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I know no other glider will ever completely replace Joey in your eyes. I haven't lost one yet, but I can only imagine how it feels. It broke my heart to hear your story <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> . The same thing happened to me, well not exactly. I rescued a baby baby baby kitten, and he was growing and getting better, so my dad decided that it was time for him to go outside, well, I gradually let him out, but always brought him back in. One day I heard my little sister and all of her friends screaming and yelling, so I ran outside and a [censored] dog had my kitten in it's mouth. PLEASE DON'T hate me for this, but I ran up and kicked the dog as hard as I could in it's head and he dropped my kitten (3-4 mos old) and I ran over there and the dog had hurt the kitten so badly that the kitten had pooped everywhere, it was so sad. Of course it had to be on a Sunday and all the vets were closed, so I called everyone, and finally found a vet that would meet me at his office. The dog had punctured the belly and all of it's organs and had broken both back legs and fractured the spine. The vet would not give me any option but to put him to sleep. It was the saddest thing ever, well, so far. As for the dog, well my dad and my boyfriend took care of him.

I can only imagine how messed up I would be if it would have been a glider. I love them sooooo much more. I'm sorry for the long story, I just wanted to let you know that I could relate in some sort of way. You are in my prayers and I hope that you will be able to see part of him in your other babies. Your story is terribly sad <img border="0" alt="worried" title="" src="graemlins/worried2.gif" /> .

I wish you the best and I am glad to hear that you have realized that you can go on with your life. <img border="0" alt="clap" title="" src="graemlins/yelclap.gif" />

Wishing you the best,

Tammy
Gizmo & Gidget
Sugar & Peanut (STILL WITH JOEYS IN POUCH)
SugarBear

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#4449 - 12/17/02 12:34 AM Re: My Joey passed away [Re: ]
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Leah, I can't say anything that hasn't already been said, you are in my thoughts and prayers. Accidents do happen no matter how careful we are. I have a german shepherd who lays outside the glider room door waiting for one of them to escape the room. One night, after several major disasters, I had lost Latte' twice, found her, had a thru the cage fight that ended with one male (Leo) with broken finger, a call to Bourbon, and the vet at 1:00 am, then, spoke to PepPony for a while, made it to bed finally, only to be woken up at 6:00 am to what sounded like elephants, come to find out I had Latte' and Gizmo loose in the living room and the shepherd was chasing them! Talk about a close call! Don't beat yourself up over this, pour your love for Joey into his family, that's what he would want you to do. Sending you glider hugs, and prayers for peace and healing.
Chey

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#4450 - 12/17/02 01:53 AM Re: My Joey passed away [Re: ]
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First, I would like to thank everyone for there prayers, thoughts and glider hugs. They are very much appreciated. Just reading all the nice things that everyone has to say, really does make me feel better. Tammy, I didn't put it in the letter that I wrote that night, but when my husband and I went out in the yard to bury Joey, that cat was sitting in the tree and I too kicked him. I was just so upset. I know that it was wrong now, but the feelings that I was feeling then wasn't making want to even look at that cat.
I place the baby blanket that I carried in my bra with Joey's blood on it in my jewerly box. There I know it's safe and now another glider has a place to sleep if it wants to.
You know Patches, when I read your response something came in my mind so quick. You remember viedo tapping me eat and then Joey come out of my shirt and sat on the plate and started eatting with me too. You know you have that on video. lol Me trying to eat around him.
I loved Joey so much. When I first got him, he didn't have a cage for the first couple of months I had him. He slept with me and a few times i thought that I lost him, but he was right under my neck curled in my hair. He and I went everywhere. He even went to work with me, man did I have some fun with him at work, fooling some of those men at the bar. <img border="0" alt="roflmao" title="" src="graemlins/roflmao.gif" /> Joey would start to move and then the eyes left my eyes and wondered down to where Joey was moving at.
But, everyone loved Joey in my town. Everywhere I go, they expect to see one or all of them with me and they don't call me by name, they say," Hey Sugar Glider!"
Yawl, I thank you so much for your replies. It does hurt and everytime I go into the front yard, I clean the leaves off of his grave and just stand there long enough to let Joey still know that I love him. <img border="0" alt="cry" title="" src="graemlins/crying.gif" />
Thank you everyone so much, Thank you.

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#4451 - 12/19/02 06:21 PM Re: My Joey passed away [Re: ]
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I am very sorry for your loss. I know it hurts very badly when you lose an animal, being as they are part of your family. However, it's not right to blame the cat for his death. If you hold anger towards him, you may as well resent whoever left the cage open. I'm not saying that's what you should do, I'm just emphasizing my point. Cats and small animals are natural born enemies. The poor cat was just doing what his brain was telling him to do. I am truly sorry for your loss, and I'm not trying to insult you. I love animals, great and small, and it just kills me that the poor kitty may have to live out his days hungry, lonely and in danger everyday due to actions he couldn't contemplate nor control.

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#4452 - 12/19/02 06:46 PM Re: My Joey passed away [Re: ]
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Animal lover 22, thank you for your concern for the cat and my family. But, I didn't just throw the cat outside to live on his own. I gave him to an eldrly lady that lives down the road from me and he is being very well taken care of. I found him in the parking lot at the store, so before I got him he was starving,lonely and homeless.
As for blaming the person that left the cage door open, I truely can't do that. My son is the one that opened the door. He will be 2yrs old on Jan.22. I don't blame him and I can't, you have to understand.
I too am a very well known animal lover here. For some strange reason being a leo, I LOVE cats. They were #1 on my list before I was given Joey for a late Christmas present.
I'm not trying to jump on you or make you think that I'm a bad person, I just wanted you to understand of what did happen a little more.

(edited cause forgot a word <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> )

<small>[ 12-19-2002, 07:51 PM: Message edited by: gliderseverywhere ]</small>

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